This topical guide on separation anxiety and attachment in infants and toddlers will introduce you to important books, videos, and information resources available from the EI Clearinghouse.

Books

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Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children
Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker
New York: iUniverse, Inc., 2009
This book, by the founders of Attached Parenting International, is a comprehensive look at attachment parenting, from an overview of attachment theory and child development research to strategies for everyday situations.
WS 105.5 .C3 N624 2009 318214295

The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory
Ruth P. Newton,
New Harbinger, 2008
This book shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and confident.
BF 723 .A75 N565 2008 166372687

The Birth to Five Book: Confident Childrearing Right from the Start
Brenda Nixon
Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009
This all-purpose book provides parents with advice on how to encourage healthy development in many areas, including attachment and separation.
WS 105.5 .C3 .N736 2009 234175966

Bye-Bye Time = Momento de la despedida
Elizabeth Verdick
Free Spirit Publishing, 2017
This bilingual English-Spanish book for children teaches transition rituals and self-soothing techniques to help children manage separation anxiety.
BB 7 .V548bbt 2017 965617339

“Don’t Get So Upset!:” Help Young Children Manage Their Feelings by Understanding Your Own: A Guide for Caregivers.
Tamar Jacobson.
St. Paul, MN: Redleaf Press, 2008
This book shows caregivers how to get in touch with their own emotions so they can better help children with theirs. Information includes emotional development, early childhood behavior management strategies, and self-reflection.
WS 105.5 .E5 J17d 2008 182529116

Everyday Goodbyes: Starting School and Early Care: A Guide to the Separation Process
Nancy Balaban
Teachers College Press, 2006
In this book, Balaban helps parents and teachers understand why children can take time to adjust to separation and what they can do to ease transitions.
LB 1132 .B171e 2006 61353159

How to Parent Your Anxious Toddler
Natasha Daniels
Jessica Kingsley, 2016
This book demystifies the difficult behaviors of anxious toddlers, offering tried-and-tested practical solutions to common parenting dilemmas. Each chapter provides a real life example and new and effective parenting approaches to help parents tackle everyday difficulties and build up their child’s resilience, independence, and coping mechanisms.
BF 723 .A5 D36 2016 908448274

I Go to Child Care
Jillian Ritter
Jillian Ritter, 2015
This children’s book helps young children be better prepared for child care.
PZ 7 .R5142 2015 963251232

Mama’s Gloves
Mike Huber
Redleaf Lane, 2014
This children’s book tells the story of Esteban and how he manages his separation anxiety while at school, knowing that his mother always comes back.
PZ 7 .H8624mg 2014 858603178

Touchpoints Birth to Three: Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development
T. Berry Brazelton
Da Capo, 2006
This text offers parents advice on numerous topics related to emotional and behavioral development in infants and toddlers.
WS 105 .B827bir 2006 84025879

Videos

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A Place of Our Own: Early Childhood Solutions: Behavior and Emotions
111-minute DVD
PBS, 2008
This series explores how parents and caregivers can better support the social and emotional development of young children and addresses separation anxiety.
WS 113 .P697 2008 234239783

Attachment Relationships: Nurturing Healthy Bonds
29-minute DVD
Learning Seed, 2010
This video follows the process of a child forming healthy attachments from birth to age 2.
WS 105.5 .F2 .A883 2010 611597251

Preschoolers: Social & Emotional Development
23 minute DVD videodisc
Magna Systems, 2008. Closed-captioned.
This program shows how preschoolers learn to play cooperatively, make friends and express emotions.
WS 105 .P928s 2008 181641764

To Be a Father
29 minute; DVD (I am your child video series). Host Ray Romano.
Parents Action for Children; 2005 Closed captioned.
This video provides information on how fathering begins even before birth, how dads can connect with their children right from the start, what fathers can do to foster a close relationships with their children even when they live miles apart and how fathers can overcome the challenges of parenting under special circumstances, like separation and divorce.
HQ 756 .T627d 2005 63117884

Articles

The journal titles linked below will take you to the publisher’s homepage. You can ask your local public librarian how to obtain these articles or contact us for more information.


Early Childhood Today, 19(3), 33-35
Development: Ages & Stages—Helping Children Manage Fears
Carla Poole, Susan A. Miller, & Ellen Booth Church. (2004)
This article presents ways that parents can help children at different ages and stages to manage their fears, including separation.

Young Children, 58(1), 88-94
Peekaboo Power: To Ease Separation and Build Secure Relationships
Joanne M. Szamreta. (2003)
This article describes how peekaboo games can be used with toddlers and in play-group settings to support development and autonomy.

Young Children, 61(1), 14-20
Easing the Separation Process for Infants, Toddlers, and Families
Nancy Balaban. (2006)
This article provides an overview of attachment theory and how it relates to separation anxiety, bonding, and development.

Web Resources

The web resources listed below provide quick and easy access to evidence-based online information.


How I Feel (EIC)
A parent-friendly tip sheet created by the Illinois Early Intervention Clearinghouse. Also available in Spanish.

How to Ease Your Child’s Separation Anxiety
This article from the American Academy of Pediatrics provides facts on separation anxiety and tips to improve transitions for young children.

Separation Anxiety and Children with Special Needs (EIC)
A parent-friendly tip sheet created by the Illinois Early Intervention Clearinghouse. Also available in Spanish.

Please Don’t Go! Separation Anxiety and Children
It is often hard for a parent or other loved one to leave a young child who cries and clings. The child is experiencing separation anxiety. Children may not understand when loved ones will be back. Also available in Spanish and Polish.

Separation Anxiety (Mayo Clinic)
The Mayo Clinic Web site provides a summary of the causes of separation anxiety and what parents can do to ease this feeling in children.

Separation Anxiety and Attachment in Infants and Toddlers