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Resource GuidesSeparation Anxiety and Attachment in Infants and Toddlers


Everyday Goodbyes: Starting School and Early Care: A Guide to the Separation Process
Nancy Balaban
Teachers College Press, 2006
Call Number: LB 1132 .B171e 2006
OCLC Number & catalog link: 61353159
In this book, Balaban helps parents and teachers understand why children can take time to adjust to separation and what they can do to ease transitions.

The Birth to Five Book: Confident Childrearing Right from the Start
Brenda Nixon
Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009
Call Number: WS 105.5 .C3 .N736 2009
OCLC Number & catalog link: 234175966
This all-purpose book provides parents with advice on how to encourage healthy development in many areas, including attachment and separation.

Touchpoints Birth to Three: Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development
T. Berry Brazelton
Da Capo, 2006
Call Number: WS 105 .B827bir 2006
OCLC Number & catalog link: 84025879
This text offers parents advice on numerous topics related to emotional and behavioral development in infants and toddlers.

Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children
Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker
New York: iUniverse, Inc., 2009
Call Number: WS 105.5 .C3 N624 2009
OCLC Number & catalog link: 318214295
This book, by the founders of Attached Parenting International, is a comprehensive look at attachment parenting, from an overview of attachment theory and child development research to strategies for everyday situations.

The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure & Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory
Ruth P. Newton. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2008
Call Number: BF 723 .A75 N565 2008
OCLC Number & catalog link: 166372687
This book sorts out the facts about parent-child attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure and confident.

"Don't Get So Upset!:" Help Young Children Manage Their Feelings by Understanding Your Own: A Guide for Caregivers.
Tamar Jacobson.
St. Paul, MN: Redleaf Press, 2008
Call Number: WS 105.5 .E5 J17d 2008
OCLC Number & catalog link: 182529116
This book shows caregivers how to get in touch with their own emotions so they can better help children with theirs. Information includes emotional development, early childhood behavior management strategies, and self-reflection.


Attachment Relationships: Nurturing Healthy Bonds
29-minute DVD
Learning Seed, 2010
Call Number: WS 105.5 .F2 .A883 2010
OCLC Number & catalog link: 611597251
This video follows the process of a child forming healthy attachments from birth to age 2. 

A Place of Our Own: Early Childhood Solutions—Behavior and Emotions
111-minute DVD
PBS, 2008
Call Number: WS 113 .P697 2008
OCLC Number & catalog link: 234239783
This series explores how parents and caregivers can better support the social and emotional development of young children and addresses separation anxiety.

Preschoolers: Social & Emotional Development
23 minute DVD videodisc
Magna Systems, 2008. Closed-captioned.
Call Number: WS 105 .P928s 2008
OCLC Number & catalog link: 181641764
This program shows how preschoolers learn to play cooperatively, make friends and
express emotions.

To Be a Father
30 minute DVD videodisc
Parents Action for Children, 2005. (I Am Your Child Videos Series)
Call Number: HQ 756 .T627d 2005
OCLC Number & catalog link: 62081449
This video provides information on how fathering begins even before birth, how dads can connect with their children right from the start, what fathers can do to foster a close relationships with their children even when they live miles apart and how fathers can overcome the challenges of parenting under special circumstances, like separation and divorce.

Web Resources

Separation Anxiety Article from the Mayo Clinic
The Mayo Clinic Web site provides a summary of the causes of separation anxiety and what parents can do to ease this feeling in children.

Separation Anxiety: When Your Child Doesn’t Want You to Leave
This pamphlet from the University of Pittsburgh provides tips on how parents can navigate their child’s separation anxiety. 



Easing the Separation Process for Infants, Toddlers, and Families. Nancy Balaban. (2006). Young Children, 61(1), 14-20.
This article provides an overview of attachment theory and how it relates to separation anxiety, bonding, and development.

Development: Ages & Stages—Helping Children Manage Fears. Carla Poole, Susan A. Miller, & Ellen Booth Church. (2004). Early Childhood Today, 19(3), 33-35.
This article presents ways that parents can help children at different ages and stages to manage their fears, including separation.

Peekaboo Power: To Ease Separation and Build Secure Relationships. Joanne M. Szamreta. (2003). Young Children, 58(1), 88-94.
This article describes how peekaboo games can be used with toddlers and in play-group settings to support development and autonomy.

Illinois Early Learning Resources

  • Please Don’t Go! Separation Anxiety and Children (IEL Tip Sheet)
    It is often hard for a parent or other loved one to leave a young child who cries and clings. The child is experiencing separation anxiety. Children may not understand when loved ones will be back. These situations can be upsetting to the loved ones who have to leave—as well as to the child. Here are some things to remember about separation anxiety. Also in Spanish Polish

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